How?

Feelings come and go. It may feel wonderful when someone you like hugs you, holds you, and kisses you. But too many guys love themselves way more than anyone else. So they give just enough affection to get what they want, usually sex. But they may look for a new conquest in six months, and it doesn't feel so good when he hits you and yells at you.

If you want love to last, fall in love with a person's character more than their looks or the way they make you feel. Do you love the way he treats other people--not just his friends, but his mom and sister, and even strangers? Before you let yourself tie those emotional and physical knots, get to know him long enough that you have seen him when he is mad. Does he control his anger? Is he (or she) the center of his or her universe? Does he try to cheer people up when they are down.

Lots of people can be nice to someone they are attracted to. But feelings will fade, you will have an argument, and he will treat you the way he treats people he is mad at. That's why you need someone that treats others well.

Love kicks in when feelings fade. Love means that you still care about each other even when you are upset with each other. And that commitment to do what is best for the other person will bring the feelings of love back.

You feelings for someone can die in a single day. But if you chose to love the person, you will treat them with love and the feelings will come back.